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Marriage

I have long known that my beliefs are not those of most of my family, friends and acquaintances.  I know this for many reasons, but mostly because Christ told me so, “If the world hates you, know that it hated me before it hated you.” John 15:18 

Lately marriage has been on my mind. My own. Others. Generally and specifically. I’m a newlywed, you might say, so I have a lot to learn still. But I’m searching and looking for God’s will for marriage. He breaks it down fairly simply. (albeit, not what us women love to hear.) Eph 5:22-29; “22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.”

Submit. That lovely word that many women run screaming from. But my husband is the head of my family. He is the leader, not me.  Read just a little further, and God also commands husbands to love their wives as their own flesh. Nourishing it. Cherishing it. Give of himself for her. Sanctifying her.  So much for a man to do, and we as women have to allow our husbands to lead us, guide us, as Christ does the Church.

And further, He commands, 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Eph 5:33 

Men, love your wives.

Women, respect your husbands.

Is it that simple?

Can all the relational problems be fixed if men and women just did those two things?

Well…God says so.

Think about it.

As women, our biggest need is to feel loved, cherished.

Men need to feel respected, accepted.

So it must be so.

Combine all the commandments He’s given us, with those two above, and it’s a possibility.

I am a newlywed, but I strive to keep these commandments close to my heart.

What are your thoughts on marriage?

Book recommendations:

Resolution for Women, Love & Respect, How to Pray For Your Husband

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Trusting God?

Growing up in the church atmosphere, I didn’t give much thought to God, or searching the scriptures for myself really. I was blessed enough to have a Mom who taught me and gave me a firm foundation, even though I didn’t know it at the time.  It wasn’t until we lost Michael that I saw how firm that foundation had grown.

In the days and months after, I grew to knew this Lord and Master I believed in. Even knowing that somethings wouldn’t be answered, and something would be really difficult to accept, I loved Him to more I knew of Him. I pressed into Him more in that time than I even had before. But I needed the pressing in. We all need the pressing in.

The more I learn and talk to others, the more thankful I am for the trials in life. Those trials have given me Christ. Shown to me the character of God. Given me peace that my hope isn’t misplaced or unfounded.

How do I trust God?

By learning who He is. Searching the scriptures for His own words about Himself. Watching and waiting for His character to reveal itself.  Asking Him to show me the who, how and what of Himself.

Then the next hardest step…accepting that He IS just who He says He is. Just who I find in the scriptures. Accepting is where faith steps in.

 

 

Can you trust and accept? What’s holding you back from believing? Is it because you don’t know what He says about Himself? If so, I urge you to pour over the Word of Life. Seeking Him honestly, asking Him to show your heart and mind the truth of Him. Praying to replace the lies and unknowns with perfect knowledge and wisdom in Him. He will meet you there, right there in that moment.

 

In His Hands,

 

Peggy

I Gotta Be Honest About Money

…I’m not perfect! *gasp* No one is, Peggy!

 Our finances are a disaster. Royal quagmire. A sink hole.

I could go on, but I’m sure you get the picture.

As children of God, our money matters shouldn’t look like the way of the rest of the worlds. They should be in order, and under a good steward. Yet how many of us believers struggle with what to do, daily?

In Matthew 25:14-30, Christ tells the parable of the talents. *Talents where a weight of money, so it could be gold, silver etc, not a specific amount.

Three servants are given according to their abilities, first one receives 5, second receives 2, third receives 1. The first two go out and double their talents. The third buries his 1. When the Master returns, he rewards the first two, according to their faithfulness. The third one has his taken away and is banished for laziness.

We are to be diligent, and faithful with our resources. Not hiding it away, or wasting it. But using it for it’s purposes. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to submit all our ways to Him and He will make our ways straight. Submit ALL our ways, including and most especially our money.

These past few years God’s been teaching my husband and I a lot about Himself.  But the one thing that keeps ringing in my head the most, is obedience to His Word.  Obeying shows faith, and faith brings obedience. Obey, obey obey. So, if I’m to obey, what am I to obey Him about, regarding money? Like the Matthew parable shows, I must be diligent to be found faithful with that which is given to me. Money, personal talents/callings, relationships are given to us. All this we must be faithful with. God’s Word shows us and tells us just what to do with all of it:

Be a good steward.

Be faithful.

Be sober.

Be loving.

Be generous.

Be hopeful.

So, if you’re like me, money makes you stress out at times. Even to the point of staying up at nights, or waking up at night. *Like I am now, at the typing of this post. But, as His children, we are not to worry either! Oh Lord, that is so very hard not to do.  But worry does not trust He will do what He promises us. Stressing over anything, be it money or relationships, does not bring us the peace He’d like to give us.

So, what then?

We must be diligent, to be found faithful with that which has been given to us, and with joy and thanksgiving, wait upon the Lords grace and mercy. He will provide what we need, as we need it. He will give to those who are faithful, and not take away.

So today, we, my husband and I, will submit our money tangling ways to the Lord, our Beloved Master. And ask Him for His help and guidance.  We will walk the path of diligence and practice our obedience to His Word. As believers, we can do no less than obey. Even to the point of personal sacrifice.

1 Peter 4:1-2, ” Therefore, since Christ has suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same purpose, because he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, so as to live the rest of the time in the flesh no longer for the lusts of men, but for the will of God.”

Pray for us, as we practice obedience, faith and trust in God in these matters. It’s not easy to submit habitual matters to Him, but it is what we’re called to do. And if we profess to believe Him and His Word, we can do no less, than follow His Word. I have great hope, full of assurance, that He will be faithful to us. That our money handling skills will grow and stretch, teaching us much more about His character (and ours!) than we thought possible. For with every act of faith and willingness to obey, He shows through to be that which He has said.

I’m excited to see what He will teach us, and show us. I am not fearful, but joyful. Knowing that His ways are good and perfect.

In His Hands,

Peggy

 

Rest, Trust and Know

Rest: To cease action, putting to rest, repose, relief, peace, refresh, be still.

The meaning can vary, according to your source, and your aim. But this is more of a spiritual rest. A spiritual rest that causes my mind to be at ease, and full of His peace. To not be anxious for anything.

Trust: to have confidence, to hope.

My soul longs to trust Christ and His promises. To trust without fault.

Know: recognize, understand, to see, discover.

I must know my God, fully and truthfully.

 

Right now, He’s been pressing these words (actions) on my heart. To REST in Him. To TRUST Him. To KNOW Him. In the knowing of Him, the trust and rest will come. How can I not trust the God of my faith, when He’s held me up during the darkest times of my life? His word is faithful, He will again hold me up and give me strength. Give me the measure of faith for each day.

Oh, but the hardest part is to trust, isn’t it? Even when you have a recent example of His faithfulness to encourage you. But I’ve come to realize that everyday is a choice, every movement of faith is a choice. Every step along the way, is a step of faith, a step of choice.

Step, choices. You decide and move, yet He is there the whole way. Even when it’s not according to His plans, or His path for you. He is there.

I must choose to know Him, trust Him and rest in Him. To know that His plan is perfect in every way.  To choose faith over fear or anxiety.

 

Father God, help me to grow in the knowledge of You. To hold your truth close to my heart, and nothing else. No room for fear or anything not of You.

 

In His hands,

 

Peggy

30 Day Challenges

I’ve joined several challenges lately, and a few of them 30-Day ones. Besides the 8 week challenge over at Women Living Well, I will also be doing 3 30-Day’s from Revive Our Hearts, Husband Encouragement, Choosing Gratitude and True-Woman Make Over.  I’ve been needing inspiration for blogging as well as for getting closer with God.

So, let the journey begin.

We’ll start today with Husband Encouragement.

“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12)

My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years now. An infant marriage, to be sure. But when you look past the dates n time-line, you’ll see a gem. A beautiful stone that has been through fire and melting.

Just before our 1 year anniversary, our son passes away from SIDS. The grief, torment and guilt that goes along with a loss is enough to rock any marriage and most especially a new one.  As we mourned our loss, we turned to each other, instead of away. For which I’m thankful for, everyday. I like to say we were on a fast-track to a mature marriage. We learned a lot about each other, that might take others years to learn.

As life has settled down a bit, we’ve been able to have a routine again. To enjoy time together, laugh and cuddle. This in turn, allowed us to be blessed with another son who will be coming in the Fall.

My husband is a wonderful man, a terrific father and caring soul. He’s passionate about his role as my husband, and being a father again (always).

He is my best friend, my lover, my helpmate and my partner in this life.
I tell him often that I love him, but it still wouldn’t be often enough to show how much I appreciate all he’s done for me, our family and those we care about.

What do you say about your husband? Do you praise him, to him? Does he know that you love him and desire him? Do you intentionally court your husband for his ideas, his feelings? I encourage you to do so.

Peggy

P.S. Btw, in no means do I think our marriage doesn’t have room to grow and get better. It does have it’s growing pains, and misunderstandings. We’re not perfect, but we love each other and have a commitment to each other, that gets us through the tough and rough.

This post is also linked back to Time-Warp Wife.