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Marriage

I have long known that my beliefs are not those of most of my family, friends and acquaintances.  I know this for many reasons, but mostly because Christ told me so, “If the world hates you, know that it hated me before it hated you.” John 15:18 

Lately marriage has been on my mind. My own. Others. Generally and specifically. I’m a newlywed, you might say, so I have a lot to learn still. But I’m searching and looking for God’s will for marriage. He breaks it down fairly simply. (albeit, not what us women love to hear.) Eph 5:22-29; “22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.”

Submit. That lovely word that many women run screaming from. But my husband is the head of my family. He is the leader, not me.  Read just a little further, and God also commands husbands to love their wives as their own flesh. Nourishing it. Cherishing it. Give of himself for her. Sanctifying her.  So much for a man to do, and we as women have to allow our husbands to lead us, guide us, as Christ does the Church.

And further, He commands, 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Eph 5:33 

Men, love your wives.

Women, respect your husbands.

Is it that simple?

Can all the relational problems be fixed if men and women just did those two things?

Well…God says so.

Think about it.

As women, our biggest need is to feel loved, cherished.

Men need to feel respected, accepted.

So it must be so.

Combine all the commandments He’s given us, with those two above, and it’s a possibility.

I am a newlywed, but I strive to keep these commandments close to my heart.

What are your thoughts on marriage?

Book recommendations:

Resolution for Women, Love & Respect, How to Pray For Your Husband

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What Did You Say, Honey?

The TV is on, the laptop is glowing and the earplugs are in. 

5 screens are open on any given computer.

So much information, so much distraction.

Where is the marriage? Where is the connection?

We can’t avoid media these days, but are there ways to limit this media invasion into our lives? Is there ‘good’ in media? Over at Women Living Well, Courtney is exploring that very thing. She’s encouraged her readers to do the same, and link up.

In my own home, we’ve cut our cable connection out. It’s a small step, but it’s a step. We are guilty of plugging into our separate internet worlds for hours on end.  Very brief moments of verbal communication happen, and it’s usually, “What did you say, honey?” as the attention and focus is on the next screen click, the next sound alert, not the tone and cadence of our beloved.

Is it any wonder, that miscommunications happen, that marriages ‘drift’ apart and end? Without the constant attention, nurturing and vigilance, anything can happen. You have to WORK at a successful marriage, it doesn’t just happen one day, and stay perfect forever.

Media does have the ability to bless a marriage. You can glean ideas and encouragement form others online.  How to make a home, a home. New recipes to delight the taste buds and nose. On the list goes.

In my own marriage, I have claimed the desire to focus on my home, and my husband. But my follow through? It’s a little lacking! I jump online to check emails, and 3-4 hours later I’m surfing the net, on Facebook, reading others blogs, etc. *Time management is a must here!*

My goal for this week?

Put the laptop down, focus on my home and husband. Do something everyday, with intentions for blessing both.

What goals would you set, or have you set?

Peggy

P.S. Since last week, I have spend more mornings with God, than without Him. In His word, letting it bless me, teach me, grow me. I pray it continues.

Edited to add:

I’ve just taken Facebook off of my phone, and eliminated my text alerts from FB as well. Step 2 in weaning myself off of media/distractions! The first being, no cable.